You may find this article boring and philosophical but it is all about our life, our dreams,our aspirations and struggle which we go through in this fast moving competitive world. The fundamental question is ‘Should we do what we want to do’ or ‘what we have to do’. There is no denying the fact that contentment and satisfaction lies in chasing what we desire. Unfulfillment of desires leads to frustration and unhappiness in life.
There was a turning point in my life after I completed my schooling. My small world that revolved around going to school, making new friends, mugging up lessons and scoring good took a new gear.I realised that being competitive was of no value actually. You have to be perfect, extraordinary, flawless if you want to stand out in the crowd. I am not exaggerating when I use the word “flawless”. Students are able to get a 99% even in languages like English and Hindi which surely proves it. In a nutshell, you have to be outstanding to become a part of this mad race. Scoring a 90% or a 92% wouldn’t help because it will not be able to get you through a good college. I was trapped amidst this high-marks-good-college dilemma. The questions popping in my mind were realistic. Can good marks judge what you can be in life? Is it the ultimate milestone that can decide your success in life? Can mere marks tag you as being” bright” or “dull”?
Meeting other people’s expectations always becomes a tough part of our lives. Anxiety lies more in what others will think about you if you fail to get good marks. It became a part of my life too. For instance, despite pursuing Commerce stream upto the twelfth standard, my decision to enrol myself in English Honours was a surprise for many of my acquaintances and raised many doubts in their minds. Some stereotypical notions crept in their minds too. I had to explain that I didn’t want to be a teacher nor did I desire to become a journalist really for now. I am doing what I was fond of, that was studying literature, the passion of my life. This was really tough to make them understand.A real hard task.one that can decide your success in life? Can mere marks tag you as being” bright” or “dull”?
It becomes cumbersome to explain these things where money is the sole thing people can think of and according to many comments I heard, English Honours didn’t have that bright prospects as compared to Economics Honours or B.com Honours. Guys, I want to ask this question-Can money buy satisfaction? The happiness I feel when I read all of those plays, dramas, poems. It’s fascinating everytime because I am doing what I want to and not what I have to. There is a difference. The choice is yours. You have to decide whether you want to be mere trophies which your parents can show to your neighbours or are you ready to give a shot to what you really desire. Think.
What do people mostly do? No matter how much we try but we end up comparing ourselves with people we truly admire. Then the next step becomes trying to imitate them to reach upto their level. What are we actually doing in this process? We start underestimating our potential of what we can do. We fail to look through our own capabilities and instead of working upon the things we can be good at, we end up getting distracted by what others have and we don’t. Is it worth it?