Have you always felt different from others? Were you the quiet one in your school or college days? Did people ask you, “Why are you silent?” or “ Why are you so shy?” Do they still ask you that today? If so, then you might be an introvert like me.

Many people associate introversion with shyness, which is not true. In fact, introverted people tend to simply find that they get more energy from being alone or in very small groups, as opposed to extroverts who find that large groups give them more energy.  Because of this misconception, many people assume that the person is shy not introvert when he/she actually is.

 

The most basic definition of an introvert is a person who gains energy from being alone and loses energy in stimulating environments, such as social events.

Both introverts and shy people tend to avoid socializing at times, but we do so for different reasons. Introverts often stay on the sidelines at social events because socializing drains our energy.

As an introvert, admitting your feelings to someone, whether they’re positive or negative, can be incredibly difficult and that’s OK. Everyone has their own comfort level when it comes to discussing emotions, feelings, or problems. So you can’t expect everyone to be as open or as apprehensive as you may be.

People are frequently unaware that they’re introverts – especially if they’re not shy because they may not realize that being an introvert is about more than just spending time alone.

 “Let’s clear one thing up: Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people, We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.”

Here are some Signs that tell you are an introvert:

  • You enjoy spending time alone. You have no problem staying home on a Saturday night. In fact, you look forward to it. To you, Youtube, Netflix and Chill really means relaxing. Or maybe your thing is reading, playing video games, drawing, cooking, writing around the house. Whatever your solo activity is, you do it as much as your schedule allows. You feel good when you’re alone because in your alone time, you’re free.

 

  • You do your best thinking when you’re alone. Your alone time isn’t just about indulging yourself in your favorite hobbies. It’s about giving your mind time to decompress. When you’re with other people, it may feel like your brain is too overloaded to really work the way it should. In solitude, you’re free to tune into your own inner monologue—rather than paying attention to what’s going on around you. You might be more creative and/or have deeper insights when you’re alone.

    “Alone had always felt like an actual place to me, as if it weren’t a state of being, but rather a room where I could retreat to be who I really was.” – Cheryl Strayed  

  • You’re better at writing your thoughts than speaking them. You prefer texting to calling and emailing to face-to-face meetings. Writing gives you time to reflect on what to say and how to say it. It allows you to edit your thoughts and craft your message just so. Plus there’s less pressure when you’re typing your words into your phone alone than when you’re saying them to someone in real time face-to-face.

 

  • You live in your head. You may daydream so much that people have told you to “get out of your head” or “come down to earth.” That’s because your inner world is just as alive and vivid as the outer one.  

 

  • You have a small circle of friends. You’re close with just one, two, or three people and you consider everyone else to be an acquaintance. That’s because introverts only have so much “people” energy to spend, so we choose our relationships carefully. It’s about budgeting.

 

  • You don’t trust easily. For introverts, it can be difficult finding friends who respect their introverted nature. So when you do start becoming chummy with someone, you might take a little longer than an extrovert when it comes to trusting that person.

 

  • You don’t like interviews (in the beginning). Job interviews aren’t exactly an introvert’s favorite thing. However, introverts can be great at them! Going in, you might be nervous, but once you get to know your interviewer a little better, you’re able to really hit it off.

 

  • You’re a loyal friend. Introverts tend to be very loyal and honest people. Because introverts’ energy comes from themselves and not from others, so it’s easy to be honest and up front with your friends.

The only risk you face is that people who don’t know you might think you’re aloof or that you feel superior to everyone else. Giving yourself permission to be a little more open in revealing your thoughts and feelings may help you make the best of both worlds.

 

“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured…Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.”~ Susan Cain